Hi Mimi, first of all Im so sorry for all of this thats happening to you. I cant really say that I know how it feels as Im not married and never been. Ill be honest with you tho. Texting to another women that your hubby met in a bar is not a good sign, I think we all can agree on that. I just have a feeling that you`re taking this as it was your fault. If I was you I would be well angry with him simply because this is not acceptable. You`re not in a high-school relationship anymore, this is marriage and both of you are responsible for the relationship to work. Obviously hes not trying enough and that might be just because he is not happy...And do you want to be with someone who`s not happy being in a relationship with you? I hope these words are not too tough on you, dont want to make you upset...Just wanted to express how I feel about it...Anyway good luck hun with solving this out, hope everything ends up well for you! We are here for you anytime!